Who we are
“Friends at first, Friends at last.” This is the motto that Blake and I have centered our relationship on. Marriage is not easy. But it is not meant to be. Just as in so many cases, anything worth value takes tremendous effort. I honestly feel the effort required in a task is proportional to the level of happiness that can be achieved from it.
Battling the pornography fight has been one of the most daunting challenges we have faced together. I was devastated when Blake confided in me that it was a struggle he was trying so desperately to win on his own. I felt the anguish and shame and fear in a way only those who face this hurdle can understand. It was a deep, dark place. And I needed help.
I searched for hope. Everywhere I turned revealed depressing figures about failed marriages and broken hearts. We already knew the darkness of the plague. We did not need convincing. What we needed was hope. We needed to know that others had made it through and come out stronger, not just in spite of their battle against pornography, but because of it. To believe that we, too, could win this battle, I needed to see others succeeding.
Success is what this website is about—offering hope and strength to those seeking some good news about couples fighting against pornography. I am pleased to say that we have been fighting together for four and a half years now and we are happier in our marriage than we have ever been. We trust one another; we have learned how to talk about hard things; we understand the meaning of unconditional love. Where pornography once felt like an impassable hurdle, it is now a mere annoyance that we continually work to keep in check.
I am amazed at how much stronger we are, not just against pornography, but in our communication, problem solving, and parenting. There is hope! It is not easy, but you can make it, together.
Our marriage is strong. We are battling pornography. We are winning because we are still, “friends at last.”